Boredom!!!

There are times when we literally get bored.
Now, does anybody know what is boredom?
Well, that would definitely seem like a lame question to be asked on this blog.
Why?
The answer is obviously a huge nodding “yes.”
I am sure as we all travel the paths of time, we get bored at one point or the other.
Well, I am sure that you guys know the science behind boredom and why it comes to us.
Most, often the usual expression is, “Ahh, I am bored.”
Now, bored of what and why?
Bored of what?
Scientifically we can never be bored by someone or something. It is usually a boredom which comes from our subconscious and touches the conscious mind.
So, next time you are saying this, you make sure, of this inner feeling which you would be experiencing while uttering the word- it simply means that the body and the mind are bored of each other, human mind is bored, which means you are rather bored of yourself and not anyone or anything else in the world.
Now, for geeks, if any are reading this post.

What happens?
What exactly happens to your brain and mind when you utter those three tiny little words, what is the impact, let’s see
There is in fact, a whole thesis paper available for this whole process. This is one of the detrimental factors which can be associated very closely with our working system, the ways we think, we act, we eat. In fact, a perennially bored person will have changes in body language which will communicate but one thing, boredom. The skin will scream and say that to everybody around.
So, as per Colleen Merrifield’s thesis paper, “Towards a model of boredom,” we learn the major neurological changes happening in the brain while we are undergoing the process of boredom.
Psychological stress is a major trigger to the activation of the HPA (hypothalamic pituitary adrenal) axis. So, this leads to increased secretion of cortisol hormone.

Psychological stress

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HPA trigger

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Cortisol release

What goes on?

Psychophysiological equipments used were saliva test for cortisol level, heart rate and skin conductance level in a group of subjects.

To start with


At first, there is blushing of cheeks, yes, absolutely there is a lot of blushing which occurs with the gain in momentum of boredom (well, then are we supposed to linger and wander on the question that in love does the mind of a person experiences boredom which leads to blushing- like ahh, the same universal process to witness, not again), causing an increase in heart rate and further lowering of SCL (skin conductance level).
Thus, cortisol increase seems to be directly linked to boredom.

So?
Now, so boredom can be causing an increased level of cortisol in the body.
Just take a deep breath, relax, let go and check if you are feeling to be in that state.
What is the cause then?
If the cause is known then rectify or at least begin the plan to rectify the same effect.

Next part

Since, high level of cortisol from the body for a prolonged period of time case cause the below mentioned harm to your body.

With high levels of cortisol, the kidneys, the bean shaped structures within our body releases higher level of prolactin which leads to depletion of the adrenal glands.
The following signs begin to show up in the body which is not limited only to this though, however to start with, this is what it begins doing.

Backaches and headaches
Not sleeping well.
Even after sleeping well, you are tired. So, now you know, you are not tired, you are actually bored.
Weight gain- weight gain is often not caused alone by obesity and depression. Check around you, are you under the monotonous feeling.
You catch cold and other infections easily.
You crave for unhealthy foods.
With increased cortisol levels, you might experience increased heartburn, reflexes and you gut might be throwing up the boredom. Since it has its own nervous system which is impacted by the superior nervous system, even then it might be showing up its own ways to express boredom. Definitely vomits don’t smell too good neither do they look, beautiful thus, stating or signalling exactly how it is feeling right then.
You begin to feel anxious for no reasons- You have done your homework but yet you are anxious.
You feel dull and depressed. I think we always talk about depression, it has become a disease. Millions of people are advertising it telling you to be aware of depression. But, just find out before jumping into this belief, if it is really depression or boredom behind the scene.
Hence, this could be your problem, main problem as to why you are so sick and dull. Your whole life is a flurry and zooms around you from morning to evening.

What can you do about it?

Well, vacations can help. Small or big, but eventually after returning you feel the same once, you have shared all the posts and pics that you collected, since here you are trying to heal your symptoms, not your core problem.

It has to be one of the below.

Either you are not satisfied with your job.
Or, not satisfied with your surroundings
Else, you live a very cocooned and closed life. It doesn’t mean if you have a lot of friends, you would begin feeling good. It means take out me time. Do what you like.
Though after forty, it is as much a myth as Santa Claus is at our twenties.

But, yet making an effort to live in a way you want is always worth the effort.

Many wise men comment that life begins at forty so if you are that age don’t look at it with hollow eyes.
Start preparing, it shows that once you begin imagining what all you want to do, it will conceivably make you feel happy.
This will help release boredom to a lot extent.
Keep planning until you have settled your finances, (children and wife) those who have!
Convince them or convince any family around which you stay. It could be your friends who are your family, your own parents and siblings, your life-in partners.
Just, convince and begin life in a direction you wish to se yourself at fifty.
Don’t plan beyond that, since you might want to do something else post fifty and if you don’t, you could be subject to the same process.

Life is to enjoy, live, spread happiness and peace,
Not to sit and count money, position and dissatisfaction.
Not to accumulate jealousy, anger, competition and howlers.”

Hence, brush your back and begin!

Need some help in planning or need some more inputs, can write to me in the email address provided in the blog.

Happy reading!
And
Happy changing!

Sagittarius women

sagittarius women
A Sagittarius woman can often not show her heart.
A Sagittarius woman prefers to tell the world a small story vaguely about her life.
She is never shallow.
She just pretends to be, when she is not with right people.
She lives with patience. Her patienc is only for people she deems her own.
She is lively only to hide a sorrow.
She laughs since she is deep, knows life is just a small quintessence of dust,
Fakeness dose not touch her, if she is not self imposing it,
They do not tell full story to the world, just outlines so as to keep people’s curiosity at bay.

She declares since the world would anyways know her deeds much before she actually wishes to make everything public.
So despite being intensely private, she is wise enough to remove the wraps for people to peep in slightly, but only a little.
She will never walk where she does not want to.
She will never lie to people who matter.
She would never play clever with people she knows matter,
She is straight and might tell a point as it is,
You should know, twisting is not required.
If she is wrapped with someone, she will stay forever, her love will never fade,
She is not at all a passionate creature, but she is wild and might have done few mad things.
She loves to paint a face she loves and would live with it days after days.
She says she is waiting, no matter what happens, she will wait,
She is honest to friends, to the point where often she will remain stuck.
For her time does not move in leaps and bounds,
For her time is like 56 hours in a day.
Life is always a slow motion picture for her, for she deems it can only be real when you are slow,
She might have not understood what she has to do, if she is not doing anything.
She can be dumb, but not proud.
Tell her and she will come to you,
She can live without anyone, though she is vulnerable when she finds someone who matches her soul.
She tells it right on the face, she does not practise deceit.

She can separate imagination from reality, truth from lie, even if it is like a needle in a haystack.

She knows it all, she sees it all, but she still is innocent, would like to preserve it, thus does not enter the world much.

She does not believe in fights, she believes in peace, she sees how far can one go with ones own imagination.

She will live and love.

She is often the subject of scrutiny since she thinks different.

She has no said definition for she knows all definitions are man made. Each has several contradictory definitions.

If you try to engage her in war or anything she has no time for, she would ignore it and you would be deeply disappointed for she does not live to make war, she knows that.

She can wait till you arrive truly.

She knows when you have truly arrived.

She is her own horse, she is good at sniffing.
How do I know all this, since I am a Sagi girl.

 

Love and kappa!


Love love and love!κappa

Well, I had realised long back, love was not for me, reason-
I was too busy climbing trees, mountains, scaring & chasing fishes & meows.
I had bruises and a bleeding heart for all whom I lost were dear to me, and even when I sit alone, a tear or two trickles down me. I was broken.
If love was actually there, why did it not be when I needed the most, why those hands left me which I treasured the most.
I decided love was not for me, so I grew up loving me, learning all skills to survive in the hard strong mountain breeze,
in the snow, in the dimness and splendid white lightness of the mountains I now called home, if I did not make it good in the world.
I then came to know about degrees, my zongpa told me, they could help me too, to fetch a few bucks.
I did that too.

“One day, you might be the ones taking care of some such kids like me, or return to the world, find your home, find your man, and never turn again to us,” he said.

” All I want is happiness for anyone who touches my small boat.”

He threw me out in the snow, “learn strength, learn all that it takes to survive here. Come back only if you end up a failure, alone or lonely, broken more, beyond repair.”

He closed the door, I was five, I waited until my mother took me in her arms again.

But, kept on being naughty, to an extent that I began being like a shadow.
Each hand which was once there, slowly withered or vanished as though they were sands on my fragile skin.
I lost hope, took a job, I knew since the first I could not do it all my life, I waited, because I was in a new big city and life was more chaotic.
I tried being a part of the chaos, tried learning it,
but a girl who usually went well with everyone, making others laugh,
seeing others happy as it seemed at one time to be her one of the many hobbies, seemed so lost.
I was more lost than ever, ended up not making a single friend, telling no, seemed hard in this world.
I realised here in the garbs of this city that I was a woman, had never felt it till.

But, when I met him, I thought maybe that is why I was made to realise my gender? may be!!!
False people, false emotions, I was tired, ready to quit.
It was so hard, even if I did not like a man, and I said no, yet I was not heard, yet, I had to feign and take a long route to a simple “no.”
I could never say that I was not interested in men here, I found no true eyes, no true souls.
Just, when I had made up my mind, I was about to quit to return to the wilderness,
I had to go out of the city for my mother to meet a doctor.
Just, when I had planned the mountains, I met this face, I felt I knew long just at the first meet.
It was a ridiculous idea for me, one who, was so well trained to move alone, could even think this? I thought to me.
I negated it, with a waver of my hand, and I met him again and again, and each time my heart grew fonder.
I began missing him, I was so shocked at this, I had stopped myself missing long.
My heart beat ran high, every symptom appeared like those I saw in friends long gone.
I am still thinking of moving to the mountains, but now I am like a pendulum, wavering back to that point where I yearn to see him once at least in the day.
Could it be true, could such a beautiful thing happen to me, or was it a dream, a conjuring or a yearning of a heart which has been damaged by the years of madness it survived.
Trying to live, trying to not let people go away, trying to fight every point, trying to hope,
False relations, false people, false destinations, mirages, what little faith remained was killed by the city, I came to find hope.
Should or rather, could I dare to dream again, or was it a mirage that would just prove to be so?
Was it the final stone to knock me rock bottom, was it the one with which I would know pain completely.
Because it has always been pain that completed me and not joy ever.
Saved by an old alchemist, another grand dad who could not see a child in pain, who taught my Heart to turn pain to joy, and sadness to happiness, the one I met in one of my vagabond trips.
Is he an answer, I still don’t know, I am waiting to know.
But with this little hope, I seemed to be alive again, now I did not know what to do with my little hope?
So, I though of focussing on what I could do to earn a living in a way I deemed fit.
I still think of the mountains and if we are ever together, I would ask him if I could ever visit lands, I long left, if he would let me climb again?
If he wants to join me, I would hold his hand and walk close.
Till then, I would try to earn to provide for people I consider my own,
I hope only, to make it happen. Because, after years of practicing self conversion of energies from one form to another, I finally met the one, I waited long for, I finally did not have to transmutate.
Joy arose on its own or came from him I did not know.
I wanted to stay close to him, work something that could give me the space to be with him, be with my loved ones.
Only to leave him and my loved ones, at times, only for the mountains, if he and my chosen few did not wish to run with me to them always.
I want to look and feel normal again, I want to stop, I want to stop romanticising pain, want to think it to be normal.
I want it all to last till the very end! But, got to wait to see if it is a joke or a brute effort of some brutal force to break me down further.
If so I need to still hold the post strong, ready to be bruised more till death finally sets me free rather.
I got to see, I wish all my sceptical thoughts melt to nothing one day if he chooses to walk in, will he? why would he?
If he doesn’t, I need to sigh, nod my head, transmutate the sorrow to joy again, and move on, to be the captain of my ship further in guffawing at the creator.
Hope…Love…hard to hope..easy to love…

WAKE UP CALL TO ALL GIRLS!!!

Next, to go in the list is never harm anyone if possible. The real wisdom lies in knowing and being able to find out another way. Use tact instead. Remember, fight is never the answer, flight may be. Even if you have to combat a while, keep your eyes open for another way and slip off.

Never be jealous or selfish. Remember, always that you are the sole owner of your journey. Help, others in their journey if possible, but stick to your path solely and also make sur, you let them stick to theirs. If they trespass do not hesitate to show them the way, of course, keep in mind that since they tried trespassing, grabbing a few items from you, do not try to play any tricks since in the long run called life, this does not help at all. Trust, what you get is what you strive for, and only what is allocated.

Show your strengths, mitigate your weaknesses on your own, or take help of your own, if at all, required. Be cautious, that someone can try to become your master, someone you don’t want in that position. Since fight would be inevitable at this point, hence forego the previous process itself.

Never listen to any whispers, remember your brain is made up of millions of neurones and the Cyton seems to be the Hubble and the dendrites and axons seem to be part of the antennae system, each is wired to the other, just like they can hear your head you can hear theirs too along with your own. So keep whispers aside, since not every human has been trained on authenticity on this Earth.

If you are filterless, again you are in danger. Filter is meditation where you can tune your mind to be chaotic when you want to, and still single pointedly focussed when you want to, hence just stop listening to those whispers and let them rattle your brain, ignore. By ignoring you set a brilliant process in action. You do not recognise them and that hurts all, except a few.

If the whole world dances around you to lure you, dance for some time, to check if you can be still lured, once that self imposed test is done, ignore and snooze off. If they continue, do not stop them, just do not look or look but know it’s a dance. They will get the message one fine day.

Everyone tries to advise every other single person, since it is a way to establish your worth in the society, however, what matters it, is who you take it from.

Above all, be strong, learn to have compassion even with those, who try to harm you, forgive and forget, be in your journey and complete your journey. After forty years even they would forget you in that way, since they would be crippled or dead or vice versa. It would not matter, after a hundred years at all. So chill and never hurry.

So, points to remember-

1) Know yourself well.

2) Chalk out clearly who all you love, what you love, what you want and how would you love to see your life and why and stick to it as though you are a mountain. Ignore all sideway advertisements and well tuned hawker voices who try to lure confused people into their traps. You can pretend to be confused since not all deserve your confessions and clarity. Proclaim your clarity to those who matter and know they would see it eventually based on how high they are in their I.Q, E.Q and C.Q (complication quotient, I call it. If they know the complexicities and traps well, know how to read between the lines, and if they have true intentions, they will see it faster and if they are very innocent, it might take them some time, have patience.)

3) Know, if two people exist together, needs can be different. Note, how much you can give your all to people who matter  to you and you consider them as your own.

4) Never compromise and confuse on who you love, know for sure, and never let the world tell you whom you should love. Know how much your loved ones are capable off, since the world might try to be an imposter trying to manipulate what, who is doing and causing confusion and strain in relationships.

5) Spot those faces, those souls, with whom you presume your life and cleanly stack them in your mind. For, you cannot keep count on the faces of imposters always, for they are many. Remove from your mind all those imposters.

4) They who begin a game, pull many in the game. Some are honest faces. If you find such a face, stick to it alone, if possible.

5) Deny any madness the world tries to put you in, do not be convinced by what the steelers tell you in the market.

6) Then, slowly retreat from the crowd which tries to put conditions, said and unsaid- if they seem something you do not believe in, try to change it to something you can believe or something midway but never play their game, in their way. What you can do and what you want to do and how much should be clearly set on the table so that tomorrow, they are not able to turn you into something you are not, in front of the foolish, maddening crowd.

7) Once you are out of that crowd, that zone of riches and advantages, 90% of the crowd will vanish with their trumpets and trampolines.

8) The ones who remain would be two types-

a) The ones who are truly yours.

b) Those gritty people who have seen your worth in the society and who wish to benefit more and can convince you in shadows also.

9) But, right here, you have to use your soul, brave girl, since the ones who are your own would always give you a choice to do what you wish to do, would always help you in doing that in any which ways possible as they will feel your pain, anguish and worries, would know that living that way would have killed you long before you at actually dead.

The real ones as per you have already been spotted by you, hence all you have to do is give them the chance and take the chance when they give to you to merge.

Rest, you can crush their confidence by coolly walking past them. Remember they do not even deserve a fight. Close the doors, find new destinations with people you can trust by your side- real relations, real love and real family or else prefer to walk alone and be peaceful and happy. Never settle for anything else.

 

All the best!

 

 

 

WAKE UP CALL TO ALL GIRLS!!!

I am sure in this age of hypocritical imposter plantations, all across the globe, many wome, almost 55% of them, as per raw data, are suffering from some fundamental dilemmas.

First question, important for almost these 55% women are- RELATIONSHIPS.

1) Are they in a right relation?

You can know it, by measuring how much each of both is striving to be in the relationship. If they are not at all striving, it could be they are a Spock of that very society to which you benefit day in and day out in numerous ways, that society which is further trying to make you something whereby they would benefit further. So, often you would notice that there will be a lack of flexibility towards the choices you make as to how you want to live and contribute to the society, with whom you want to live and what kind of life you want to lead. They could then be serving as those cocka which are out on top of the cages packed with hens, the ones who would be killed. Seeing the cock, they consider themselves safe not worrying about their impending doom. So, instead of vehemently opposing the process of caging, they rather sit quietly wishing to mate. Society also might try to gift you the right cock, beware!!

Always remember, that people who really love you might also want to change you, but it will always be towards your healthier beliefs making you stronger, giving you the right options, and letting you be flexible in your choice of vocation mostly in today’s world.

2) Are they in the right job?

Well, you are not once you know you are not. It might have served you well and to which you were a true servant, but now, you have grown away from it and both parties should respect that. If it tries to manipulate you, know it’s time to ring the bell and walk out.

Manipulation can come in few ways, based on what in your life is getting manipulated

i)  Through us of people to manipulate your needs.

ii)  Through manipulation of your desires.

iii)  Through manipulation of your basic requirements.

What is getting manipulated depends in the standard of the people involved in the game and as to how low they can fall, creates the basis of the challenges which roll around you when the dice is rolled in their courts.

3) Are you doing right?

Never do anything you perceive as wrong. If you think anything is right to be done with one person, ensure that you apply enough frictional force for the world to know that what you do with one person, (in terms of your gestures and behavioural pattern) is not to be perceived as the standard. Keep things flexible and weigh the person right in front of you in all parameters before declaring anything concrete about the person. Once you do declare, let it be the Gold Standard. Do not change your opinion about the person after that, but yes you can continue to judge the surrounding and the people who form the surroundings since they might be as much an impact as the person himself is.

Similarly, go back to your roots and beliefs. If you think you do not want to be a part of those you don’t understand or, above all, do not choose to understand, stick to your decision of not being a part like a mountain and no manipulation can affect you.

Keep your inner thinking straight but if confusing others can solve your problem, since they consider you a week ling, and do not wish to respect or put weight to your judgements and do not understand your “NO”, considers it as yes, then you are balanced if you confuse them since it is far better a choice made to combating them.

Do not let every other person change you, confuse them if required, but remain true to those faces who seem to have an individuality and those who are really pure in the core.

Do not let every other person guide you.

Do not be a part of any imaginary tiffs, no matter what they or you imagine. If they can imagine, you can too, but what sets you apart from the crowd, is what or how you choose to act every time. Certainly the depths of your understanding will differ widely from theirs, and hence what they do to you and what you do to them will also differ.

There was once a race, which was surrounded by enemies on both sides- on one side was a group which termed themselves as friends and on the other side was a group which openly declared themselves as enemies. However, the friends seemed to act a little precociously. Unable to decide, he chided of the tribe called the whole tribe under the hill, full of snow and cold.

Addressing the crowd, “looking at each curious, innocent face in the dim light of the Aurora borealis which was lighting up the sky from time to time, deep in the night, the leader of the tribe announced,

“My friends! It is a moment of great confusion, we are unable o decide, if the group which declares itself as friends is genuine. Some actions are very good and some are shady, so, unable to judge and keeping in mind the values and beliefs of this tribe, that none should be harmed, at least, not the ones who even remotely term themselves as friends, we have come to conclude that we follow the 90 degree path.”

Now, the whole tribe knew what it meant and thus the tribe left the are in the dead of the night, never to be seen again. In that friends group, some turned out to be real friends who mourned the loss and much later were allowed into the realm of the tribe alone. However, mostly the group as a whole did seem to be comprised of some genuine and some not so genuine people.

It is also not entirely wrong to detract people who try to detract you, keeping in mind they are not harmed since that is of course, and should of course, not be the purpose.

It is alright if you hide your innocence, your feelings, your relations & your story from those whom you do not even consider distantly, since you alone know the truth of the situation you are dealing with.

Distance yourself.

Post distancing, also you could be in a bad situation due to your enemies being stronger than you, because they might want to bring you to a position wherein they can disguise as your friends attempting to winning your trust. Never take help in those situations, live or die should not be their concern who intend to harm you- remember always.

Stay in your sufferings and search for a way.

Only stay with faces you trust, the ones you know and the ones who turned out to be your friends in the crowd.

If those faces do not arrive after you leave the crowd and do not help you to do what you want to do or at least do not stand by you, leave them in the crowd, do not go after them back, since they might be the ones who do not have the courage to stand out despite being honest and true, they might have their needs and worries. Respect that, but if they do come, open your arms and merge with them.

No one should be able to tell you what you need, with whom and when. If they try to poke in their head, ignoring is the best way.

Ask the right questions to yourself and all would settle. Remember questions are good, the ones who tell you the opposite are those, who do not want some shade of theirs, from being discovered.

No matter, who tells you what, learn to say “NO,” when you know it. and never quit, even if the whole world tries to fight you.

Death is imminent, comes to all, so it doesn’t matter. What matters is did you put a good and strong action against their fight.

 

to be countdd…

 

Silver linings- in fond memory of Suraksha whom I don’t meet and Pawan, my brother who left me alone here to be at peace with himself

I wish I met Suraksha earlier to save Pawan from leaving us to look for him in the strong winds. Life would have been different had you been there. And, Suraksha a hope she lit in my heart till date it burns bright and strong.

Kasto Mazda hai pyaar maa…kasto Mazda hair pyaar maa…

Hope

Society and its chains-3

Thus, we do not allow,

a) Adoption of hapless children by emotionally mature individuals, single parenting with less means is negated, couples having less resources, eunuchs and parent of same sexes cannot adopt, as they are under the covers of sexual abusers who are, if existing then very much a by-product of this society. Their innocence was converted to their hostile nature. However, nobody utters a word, when these same children are sold to the world markets and are bought by the highest bidders. I think the society has a blueprint of every nature and every individual, yet many people are not being allowed to take care of these children. Resource earned by selling a child to such sadistic people earns them more than by raising them, since it means investment by the society and who would want to invest in an orphan?.

b) It is not the fault of these humans who fell prey to these vicious circles organised by the society itself. It is the fault of the society which has at many points, suppressed many voices and souls for their own benefit, in return creating imbalances.

c) Preventing animals from being adopted in lieu of sexual abuse. Who is responsible for breaking down human mind to such a low level? Well, now we all know the answer.

I personally knew a family, which was not very well off, the father was dead, mother was working, had three sons, one son went under the grip of this very society, got hepatitis C and kidney failure after sleeping with cats and chimps. The mother was a shrunk lady in her sixties, a school teacher as poor as teaching is mostly considered in India, an art of no use, no matter however important it is. The Indian education system should learn from the Finnish counterparts. Now, this mother who was already skinny donated her kidney to her son. She saved him and this happened in the very renowned Christian Medical College and hospitals, Vellore. She received a lot of help in terms of treatment from the mild souls of the hospitals.

The education system transformation began some 40 years ago as the key propellant to the country’s recovery plan and promoting economic growth. They thought little until in 2000, when the first results from the Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA), a standardized test given to 15-year-olds in more than 40 global venues, revealed Finnish youth to be the best young readers in the world. Three years later, they led in math. By 2006, Finland was first out of 57 countries (and a few cities) in science. Education system is with no tuition fees and with fully subsidized meals served to full-time students. It consists of daycare programs (for babies and toddlers) and a one-year “pre-school” (for six-year-old); a nine-year compulsory basic comprehensive school (from age of seven and ending at the age of sixteen); post-compulsory secondary general academic and vocational education; higher education (University and University of Applied Sciences); and adult (lifelong, continuing) education.

Another woman I met while travelling to Elephanta caves, Mumbai. She was in the same ferry. She abused cats, from whom she had contracted a rare, highly allergic feline disease and it took her some months to recover. She was later undergoing rehab in the Thane mental hospital, Mumbai, as her family refused to accept her back, the same family which took money from her when she earned sleeping with men, she was not a prostitute, she told me, she did it independently and went with people she felt. It seems she had a job and she had got a very high rank satisfying her bosses. But, then the disease struck her. One of her fellow colleague in the office had introduced her to monkeys as he had a pair in his home. Now, she was into cats and dogs as they were more widely available, I gave her a word of advice. Was she not a prostitute? I could see the damage done to that mind. She was slightly poor, was limited and society nicely wringed her neck in the name of marriage, initially she began sleeping around when promised by men that they would marry her, however this did not work out, revenge was created in her mind by these evil doers, she was supposed to show the previous one, and it went on and on. Beautiful game plans the world devices and catches many in those nets of deception. But, she emerged stronger than I had thought. She left the MNC job, she was also trained as a mechanic of steamers and boats and any moving element in the sea except ships. She has settled all by herself in Vasco, her nanny home and she stays with her very old nanny and the sea, in her words, “I have closed the doors, and, now, I am happy. It’s only, I, nanny and the sea. It talks and I listen.”

So, the message is-

1) Don’t change!!!! In short, be incorrigible unless you feel a slight change is required for the greater good. If you are a female be wary about friends and enemies for women have few handful of true friends and mostly hidden enemies, either hiding in the friendship cloak or those who have courage exist as enemies on the front. Note it and let the person know what you feel, so that you reduce loads in life. Travel light, as light as possible till the end.

2) Know your true nature- it might be quite a while to know your job but our true nature mostly all those who are not lost are constantly aware of, every moment as we delve down into our souls.

3) Be adamant when you know you are right- Do not listen to society when it says, “it kills,” do not pay heed, since it is a quality which the society cannot tackle and hence tries to “chop down.”

4) Beat to your own drum and beat your own drum.

5) Stand for yourself, since if you don’t, who else will? Do not try to find allies and friends and relations. No one will believe you if you do not believe yourself.

6) If you are a gay, be proud and stand. If you are monogamous, whether with the person or without the person, be proud. The polygamous alone are allowed to be proud in this world, why? Because they serve the societal needs from time to time. If you say once is enough, no one should have the courage to trespass it, and like old haggards, if you meet deaf people who keep repeating themselves in the name of opportunities being provided to live better, to thrive, to spread your seed,  shun them all or ignore or trick them if they are malevolent, but do not budge.

7) It does not matter if your seeds remain in this world or not, since no one is immortal, not even your genes, as they mingle, they lose your essence, slowly by, down to tenth generation you do not exist in your own family. Unless, the Nature decides to preserve any quality of yours, through the world. In that case, you need not worry. If you see, very few great men left their genes behind. It’s a culmination of expressions beyond which those souls need not exist. Rather, leaving someone behind is more pathetic, if being not done and not being nurtured in the right way, since you can never fathom what is coming in the future for them, if you are making them efficient enough for this world as you leave. Today, if treachery wins, you teach your child to be a treacherous being and tomorrow rules may change, for the world and we are ever changing except our choices. Nothing is fixed, we can only assume, but, very few humans are given the capability to see beyond and definitely these masses do not have it. In today’s world the system is not designed to make or create heroes, it is not designed wherein people can find that space wherein they become heroes.. The adage goes as “do not be a hero.”

8) Stick to your definitions. Do not change them as per the world. Definitions of friendship, love, lust, family, happiness, sadness, madness, anger, pride, jealousy, selfishness and the list goes on, for all. Do not change them but yes, if required for a very higher cause, you may tweak them but always remember, everyone is ready to render advise, but what matters is the one you take it from.

9) Live, live and live every moment as though it’s your last, the taste of each moment should be so deep that even death cannot separate your being from that feeling, keep all treasured up. Very few can do it, since for mostly all, time is slipping from their hands like the sand grains slip from the closed fist. But, if you show time that you are living, then it would itself pay homage to you slowing for you, correcting everything, changing all hearts and souls which touch you, bringing transformation around you to give you more time to live.

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Society and its chains-2

Who comprises this society? Practically everybody who is interested in this game of life laid down by Evil, I call the art of deviating people from their original tracks, a beautifully designed game so that like those losers, no one else can achieve their higher motives. The saddest part is, this very society teaches us to obey a higher being, more perfect and more beautiful than us, but when it comes to following it they fail to follow their own advice, well that does happen and the answer laid down by society is a flat “NO,” then.

Look at the ones, who are born differently, either in their sexual or other physical orientations. We barely have the stamina and energy to treat them at par with the population we term as normal. How do we know who is normal, how did our ancestors determine? Simple, whatever exists in bulk. So, whatever does not exist in bulk is abnormal. Thus, they chose the easy path of calculation, people who could perform all the tasks enlisted by this society. Abnormals, no one was even bothered to find out why were they send to us, to this world, what purpose do they serve, other than reminding us again and again as to who is normal and who is not.

This very society tells us, “Do not follow the easy path.” Why should we not follow?This is the path you have followed so should we. End of discussion.

We cannot thrust one population comprising of several different kinds of varieties to behave as one. We even punish and implicate the ones who think different from us. Thus, these poor scientists of yester years had to form hidden societies to prohibit this society to know about their actions. If you see in some parts of Nepalese culture, they have catered to the needs of this differently existing sexual preferences to some extent. How? By making the laws more flexible for both men and women. They worship virgin girls and upon marriage if the man or the woman seems to have more sexual needs then they are free to practice it, under the covers of the society, without being punished, but, of course, the will of the other man or woman matters in this regard, as to how much they would want to be a part of the married man or woman’s life. If they choose to stand away, not disturbing the couple then it could be that the man or the woman having the varied needs might move on to the other men or women or it could be that the man or the woman, chooses to remain with that one mate to whom they are married. But, if they choose, then two or more than two men or women are given the same status in a man’s or woman’s life.

Now, this article is not about sexual orientation and frustrations but bigger problems, which if not addressed by the generations to come, would not only stop one family or two families but entire race of humanity to stop spreading its seeds. If it still remains blind and unaware, then all we can say is, “Another race of stupid mammals (quoted Ice age).”

The world is slowly crumpling under the load, so is Venice, the city of Love and not eroticism as defined by many. Otherwise, this trick of evil will no longer serve its purpose, his mad theory of “keep your genes alive or face extinction,” will become a bogus and rotten theory in days to come, leaving no seed alive in the planet we call home. “The reason of destruction- too much importance to lust of every kind, hence annihilated,” would be the reason stuck on the board of the universal council behind annihilation.

 

Society and its chains -1

The very words which are often used to define us, words chosen by this very society which had once been our cradle, is very often strong and hugely capable enough to extinguish the fire within us, the fire which we carry in our hearts, called souls which keeps the hearth alive. In olden days, they would never let the fire extinguish in homes and either the fireplace or the hearth would be burning. Fire brought joy and warmth, brought people closer, made them friends. In modern days, the fire runs in our homes in the form of electricity, and thus helps us survive but I guess not as effective as the candle or the hearth or the fireplace. However, this is not the point of our discussion.

So, if we allow by some chance, to let the soul escape our body (their being various conditions- one of the prime ones being, when we are either made to or we ourselves voluntarily act against our conscience or when we fall prey to the wrong links of the society due to our very poor or naive judgments.). Thus, if you see, keeping our whole body intact is our responsibility and it is left completely to us, as to how we do it.

Once the soul has escaped our body, we are reduced merely to an organism which is only capable of performing the basic tasks which keep us alive as, eating, drinking, procreating, procrastinating, taking revenge, killing, plotting and plundering. Rest of us is governed by the darkness which comes to reside in the very place from where the soul has escaped, the fire no longer burns, so we are incapable of seeing who comes and who goes from us.

Now, if we are capable of standing still and capable of thinking quietly, even, if, for a moment, then we would realise that the prime role of fire within us, is exactly the same, as, out of us. When the fire is not burning outside, we are surrounded by this perpetual darkness, and our vision is blurred since light ceases to exist. The dark objects hover around us, more powerful, more insinuating and more fiersome than us, guiding us, our will, primarily to unforeseen dimensions subject to their discretion and not ours. Now, darkness treats everyone equally. This is an advantage in its own place, but there is a catch in this- it would not allow you to practice your own free will, or the Universe’s will, now the Universe does not treat you at par with another (because we are all different beings with different purposes and our jobs are not same; if you apply the same temperatures to iron and gold, we all know what happens) but most often lets you practice your free will.

How or where does society have the ability to let us be guided by Evil? It’s exactly after our birth, where we are in a new cycle and yet to remember our job. When we are born, we are all, equanimously unaware of our roles IN this earth (that’s a drawback), except a few like Jesus or Krishna since their roles were big and their lives allocated were short, I think that could be one reason as to why they came with superfluous memories. Well, we have some small, but not meagre tasks. Even a man, as great, as Buddha, was initially not aware of his task on this planet, so he did whatever he was told to do, only to realise that he was not happy, he did not feel essentially complete (this completion is not about two bodies or two souls kind of union, in that way he was complete, but there are always many dimensions of a man which seeks completion, which comprise the various parameters of a soul and each of those parameters scream to be completed in one life and sometimes, because of our inability to listen or act again due to our sloth or society remain incomplete at one go).

Thus, Boudh had to devote himself to a rigorous process to know his task in this world, on this planet. Even though, we do not know our jobs yet, but within our soul is inscribed an essence, it spreads like a fragrance from the incense and often subconsciously we are being guided by that fragrance to that essence, which is indirectly inspiring us throughout our lives to that very core of our task. Thus, the Buddhist philosophy preaches that unless we have completed this task or we have known this task, we will keep taking birth. It is logical if you try to put it as per the laws of quantum physics- the law of energy transmutation and utilisations, azimuthal principle and Newton’ laws. As per the law, energy is neither created nor is it destroyed, it merely changes its form from time to time, hence this energy of soul also can neither be created nor be destroyed but merely transcends from one form to the other in the cycle. How does then, what we say previously hold good. How can this energy leave us or can get extinguished? Well, science answers even that, we know that when we transform the energy from one form to the other, only then it loses its original entity to acquire another entity. Thus, as per Albert Einstein, darkness is the mere absence of light which means it is converted from its illuminated form to its darker form- one and the same thing. Thus the illuminated form is extinguished and the darker and more inconsequential form comes into existence, which is the opposite force, the evil- strangely evil when read in mirror goes as live.

It is said that there was once a very famous painter who painted the face of Jesus and the devil using the same man as the model, in a span of 20 years. Thus, in a span of 20 years, the man who looked like an epitome of perfection looked exactly opposite. We can see innumerable such faces in our society. When they are young, their faces and eyes would be so cherubic and beautiful, but as they age the scars on their souls, the tortures that they laid on their souls, become widely expressed on their faces. They no longer look beautiful. They look older than they actually are, withered and lack vigour. But, at the same time, there are many souls which look same, age does not seem to change much, even as aged and delicate they carry the same eyes, the same vigour and the same smile.

Thus, to better understand, we can say that we should not allow or should not let this process of transmutation of energy be carried out within ourselves. Thus evil treats all equal promising this as a reward, in return snatches our free will and desire to behave as per our duties, since the evil is too preoccupied in performing its own duties and utilising souls in performing those duties for him, the ones which even he cannot accomplish on various planets, including ours.

We can take for example, any social system in the grip of evil currently. For example, marriage and the system of marriage, bonding and pairing.

What is the basic understanding about marriage existing in this world? If you draw a data, it does not reach standards higher than procreation through attachments. Procreation through detachment is a concept so unreal and unknown, that when some grave souls discuss it, the concept is immediately negated by the society as a bad joke. Now, this process has become a lurking enemy for humanity in the given times, earlier many such problems existed which mandated forcing this law into action, however now, the same policies no longer exist in this realm, they are transformed and like the snake which is eating its own tail destroying itself without any knowledge of its actions, similarly this very system is serving the same purpose. Our seeds should be spread and each seed should give rise to several other seeds. If this is not happening, then it’s a down. If a man or a woman is not following the social norm, then they are treated with as much vicissitude as much as the untouchables of Hindu laws and ordinances. In today’s world those who do not obey it, also have no right to live. The body, the mind and the soul seems to be just machines in this evil driven society.

If you do not abide, you would be broken. The core message is- “you cannot dream to be different. If you are, then, you better have your helpers. If not, then we would grind you to ashes.” The only way out, is hide, as simple as that. Now, the biggest jeopardy is this, in this scenario-

Even, if you have quenched this thirst of the society, yet you have not won. If anything has gone wrong, in this system, you would be asked to love again, and again and again, as though it is a trade. Often confused with lust, love is lost in today’s world.

Which populations are targeted- remember, society calls it as options and opportunities. What kind of opportunity? To spread your seed again and again.

1) If you loved and lost a loved one- you must love again.

2) If you have been unsuccessful once in forming a pair, you must try till eternity, lose all values and morales that the society itself asks you to obey until a little while ago, now urges you to become a criminal but find one goat for sure.

3) If you were rejected, you must stand again and show the world as to what you are capable of, (in short take revenge) and again become a criminal in your own eyes, unless you fall so low that no one can lift you up from your own abyss.

“Revaange,” I like to say as megamind quotes it.

4) If you are of a different orientation and you are not rich, neither influential, you must hide under the covers of a marriage.

5) If you are somewhat or very much a monogamous and you have loved enough to quench your thirst, yet you are not a pair with the man or woman, then you must try again because in this world actions count gentlemen and gentlewomen, not your intentions. Show it that you are capable of breeding and loving. Show it, otherwise you are to be chased and hacked till you admit that by not doing what you are being told to do, you are being arrogant and stubborn, stopping your own development. Society begins all sort of brainwashing and tricks making men stand in each nook and corner, even woman at times, to seduce you, to lure you, to tell you that you are to play the role of a harlot, if not a wife. You can’t have a definition which says you are nothing.

6) If you want to be at peace with that fragment of your soul, which nudges you from time to time to follow it, and if you want to remain faithful to that search, yet you have tried within your human limits and failed, so what? you must try again. Why? For the sake of society. Even if your future is death when you are either murdered or you kill yourself unable to bear the burden. Many women examples exist all around us, women being more sensitive break more easily.